I've tried in one way or another to define what friendship is in previous posts, but the truth is I don't know what friendship is, or rather what it requires ... I know what it is not ... It is not losing touch with someone I consider a friend for many moons only to re-connect with them out of the blue ...
Recently, somebody from the past tried to re-connect with me ... I hadn't heard from them for the longest time ... Out of the blue, while I was busy surfing at the coffee shop on their average-speed Wi_fi, somebody WhatsApp-ed me and the first reaction I had was of indignation ... All I could think of was what that person did that led to our long estrangement ... So, I behaved like a child and blocked them ... Sure, they sort of ended our connection, but while they were friends with me, they had been more than just nice ... What happened at the end was in the past and therefore I should have had the wisdom and maturity to re-connect with them when all they were trying to do was to re-connect with me ... No, instead I acted childishly and latched on to the past like superglue ...
What is even more galling is that I did exactly the same thing a couple of weeks ago ... I surfed through FB and thought I should re-connect with this person I haven't been in touch with for some time ... I did the exact same thing as what the person who WhatsApp-ed me did ... When I got a less than favourable reply, my mind went in all directions ... In some sort of panic mode, I texted to two other people who I had lost in touch with ... I eventually met up with one a few days ago and have planned a date to meet up with the other ...
The point of me telling all this is to illustrate that I know f**king jack what it means to be a friend ... Keeping a friendship alive is like keeping a plant or pet ... Friendships, relationships, whateverships ... In order to keep a ship afloat, one must— ... Yeah, I'm the master of stating the f**king obvious ...
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